My humble apologies to you, Mr. Blog, for the recent abandoning. I know I've not been keeping my promise in updating you and all, but hey, life has been rather, "Eventful", for lack of a better word to describe it.
To get the ball rolling, my 5-month relationship is over. I sincerely hoped for it to last much longer than just a mere 5 months, but hey, God has a weird sense of humor. I won't go into any details as I'm a firm believer in not making your private life especially relationship matters public on a blog. I was never an attention-whore and never will be.
Some things I've learned from this failed relationship, in no particular order, are;
1. Do not try to talk logic or common sense with a girl. Reasoning with them is a total taboo and chances are you're making them even more angry than from before you started your reasoning. Remember, there is nothing 'common' about sense when its between a man and a woman!
2. Even if you're right, say you're wrong, admit to it, and pray she accepts and leaves the matter alone. Girls do not like being told that they were wrong (or there was a better way to handle/deal with something other than the method they chose). Save yourselves the trouble and headache, its not worth it trying to prove you're right, you've got a hell lot more to lose than anything else.
3. When an arguement breaks out and she's pissed at you, even though she refuses you when you try to console and how should I say this, "pujuk" her, do it anyway. Do not, ever, conclude that just because she pushes you away when she's angry means that you should stay away and keep your distance. You MUST attempt to console and coax her no matter what. Let her push you away once, twice, 10 times, 100 times even, don't give up. Despite her behaviour and character at that point, deep down inside her heart is screaming out for you to be close to her. Not taking heed of this advice could land your ass in boiling waters, take it from someone experienced.
4. Each and every time you argue or quarrel with her, the fact is which many may not know, the feelings and love they have tend to decrease little by little, and its rather subtle. Even they themselves may not notice this anomaly at first, but eventually they'll feel that the feelings or love just aren't there anymore, or fading away. This is completely different for a guy as arguements and quarrels does not necessarily make our feelings dwindle and fade away. You could have a volcanic quarrel and at the end of the day, still love your girl as much as from before your quarrel. Be warned, though this may not apply to ALL girls, it does to a majority, so play your cards right.
5. When a girl is not ready for a committed relationship especially one that is to last long term, their determination and faith in the relationship is weak, and chances are at first signs of problems, they are the first to "jump ship" or abandon the relationship. There are ups and downs to any relationship, and its her character, her attitude, determination and faith during the bad times that show how far she wants the relationship to go, same goes for the guy. Remember, the good times are fun, but you have to be able to handle the bad times as well.
In no way am I trying to be biassed towards females in any way here. This is a calm, composed and informed opinion and observation of mine. With hope, anybody who happens to wander into this blog of mine would get some insight into how to handle a relationship better, or rather, avoid confrontations that could blow up in their face!
As I try my very best to put on a strong face and move on with my chin up, nevertheless the memories were important and precious to me. Maybe deep down somewhere 'something' lives within me but I guess its gonna stay there for the time being, indefinitely. I will just have to accept that maybe the time wasn't right to rekindle things, and the flame burned so bright, it burned itself out too soon. Heaven knows.
Women have both complicated minds (or confused could be the word, as many men would testify) AS WELL AS complicated hearts. What a 2 in 1 double trouble for men. Trying to understand tends to put white hair on your heads far before its meant to be there :) Good luck.
Just a little something for comedy;
The view from the chalet
Boozing spot
Burau Bay's view
Garden-view of Mutiara Burau Bay Resort
Trying to look cute, and failing miserably
Pantai Cenang, late-evening
Underwater World Langkawi, Pantai Cenang
At the docks, right before the island-hopping trip
Pantai Beras Bersih, if I recall correctly
Looks fun?
View from the cable car
The cable-car destination
